Dealing
with other people trouble..
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In my life and experiences in my Social Job,
I was always friendly, to be kind and accessible to everyone.
What will happen after.... You never know and can't guess....
who will be jealous or hating you...
Because jobs always taught me,
you shouldn't worry when people don't like you...
It's out of your hand and normal in this world.
Instead You should always learn from these people to improve your life,
your jobs..
The point is not to ''care or make you feel bad''
with their own feelings about you.
Because you don't know if they judge you
with a clear heart or through their own insecurities.
Also keep in mind that in God way you should
always thank to your enemy...
(Romans 12:20...
"If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty,
give him something to drink.
In doing this,
you will heap burning coals on his head.")
But what make me sad is...
when people always use you,
abuse your kindness to make you care something
in order to help them...
Later on, maybe because they cannot find balance in helping you back,
they will find a stupid reason to blame you instead of thanking you,
even sometimes giving you the bad role, using dirty words to hurt you.
It's only because it's always easier to destroy than to blame,
hurt than heal or insult people than thanking them...
And why is it so? Why people choose the easier way?
Because they are lazy...
And how you know it was obvious in the way they approached you.
They asked help, they asked services from you in the first place
to make you do some job for them...
Always beware of people asking you help
for something they can do by themselves,
they probably won't thank you to bare their laziness,
they will blame you and find somebody else to abuse,
so they will never seek balanced relationship.
Because of this they will always feel insecure
about their own relationship, living in the same unbalance...
I'm sad for this people blaming other
for what they do to our world,
they want to teach respect but
they don't respect anyone,
they want to teach you politeness
but they insult you in the process...
I wish these people can have a mirror effect,
as we say in psychology,
to see that their real enemy is the little scare
and heartless people they built by behaving stupidly all their life
because they don't understand that
the other people of their entourage are not their mom and dad...
Unbalance will not last so long than in their spoiled childhood habit.
When they mix me with their dirty incredible stories
or compare me to irrelevant relationship they have,
I feel so confuse with the mess in their head,
I apologize and try to stay polite.
I'm just happy I'm not them at that point.
I just don't know and don't want to know
what made them so sad,
so insecure or immature...
It's their psychologist work, not mine.
Somebody asked me to tag or accept the tag
of her husband in Facebook and then,
she felt incredibly weird and surprised that I added him to tag him
and the fact that he accepted...
I didn't know that in Europe,
people over 18 years old needed to ask somebody else
if they can join the same network...
I wish I did:
Suddenly everything, according to her, is '''my wrong''.
The logic taught me that if she wanted to hide her husband
secretly she wouldn't gave me his name to tag him...
And if she wants to control him,
why did she not ask him not to accept any FEMALE request
in the first place.
if she cannot bare it, it's beyond my understanding?
Is this 2014? Does she knowe that her husband
can open ten other FB accounts for free.
or chat all day long with anyone without my help?
No, in fact
her only concern was to remind me
that she hope I'm not ''CHASING'' men on FB
and that I'm a married woman...
Good way to thank people afterward for her,
for me, it's just an insult to insinuate this kind of dirty thought
just because you feel insecure about your own relationship to anyone else.
I'm sad somebody can speak such insulting words
with so little disguise toward me and judge me without knowing me at all,
try to teach me educational stupidities,
like you should guess what people don't want
even when they didn't said a word about it and so on,
that everything can be only my fault and my fault alone.
Any excuses, any explanation won't do it,
the one who wants to blame you will always blame you,
after all,
as the French saying
my husband taught me:
'' when you want to kill your dog
you blame him for being sick...''
A bit sad
but I'm a lot more sad to see people
who cannot trust their own partner..
In the end,
if you cannot trust your husband,
why do you love him for?
So you can blame other women around?
It's completely irrational to me.
If my husband and I had this kind of trust issue,
I will worry for real.
Luckily it's not the case,
we're not rich in wealth but we're rich in love and trust to each other,
and for good reasons, including love,
I only wish other people find the same kind
of reason to stop to be insecure
and blame other for safety
they cannot manage by themselves.
Thank to God for this story happened
and to show me..
MGBY
AMEN.
May God bring you all, love and trust in your relationship,
it will put my smile on your face.
with other people trouble..
In my life and experiences in my Social Job,
I was always friendly, to be kind and accessible to everyone.
What will happen after.... You never know and can't guess....
who will be jealous or hating you...
Because jobs always taught me,
you shouldn't worry when people don't like you...
It's out of your hand and normal in this world.
Instead You should always learn from these people to improve your life,
your jobs..
The point is not to ''care or make you feel bad''
with their own feelings about you.
Because you don't know if they judge you
with a clear heart or through their own insecurities.
Also keep in mind that in God way you should
always thank to your enemy...
(Romans 12:20...
"If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty,
give him something to drink.
In doing this,
you will heap burning coals on his head.")
But what make me sad is...
when people always use you,
abuse your kindness to make you care something
in order to help them...
Later on, maybe because they cannot find balance in helping you back,
they will find a stupid reason to blame you instead of thanking you,
even sometimes giving you the bad role, using dirty words to hurt you.
It's only because it's always easier to destroy than to blame,
hurt than heal or insult people than thanking them...
And why is it so? Why people choose the easier way?
Because they are lazy...
And how you know it was obvious in the way they approached you.
They asked help, they asked services from you in the first place
to make you do some job for them...
Always beware of people asking you help
for something they can do by themselves,
they probably won't thank you to bare their laziness,
they will blame you and find somebody else to abuse,
so they will never seek balanced relationship.
Because of this they will always feel insecure
about their own relationship, living in the same unbalance...
I'm sad for this people blaming other
for what they do to our world,
they want to teach respect but
they don't respect anyone,
they want to teach you politeness
but they insult you in the process...
I wish these people can have a mirror effect,
as we say in psychology,
to see that their real enemy is the little scare
and heartless people they built by behaving stupidly all their life
because they don't understand that
the other people of their entourage are not their mom and dad...
Unbalance will not last so long than in their spoiled childhood habit.
When they mix me with their dirty incredible stories
or compare me to irrelevant relationship they have,
I feel so confuse with the mess in their head,
I apologize and try to stay polite.
I'm just happy I'm not them at that point.
I just don't know and don't want to know
what made them so sad,
so insecure or immature...
It's their psychologist work, not mine.
Somebody asked me to tag or accept the tag
of her husband in Facebook and then,
she felt incredibly weird and surprised that I added him to tag him
and the fact that he accepted...
I didn't know that in Europe,
people over 18 years old needed to ask somebody else
if they can join the same network...
I wish I did:
Suddenly everything, according to her, is '''my wrong''.
The logic taught me that if she wanted to hide her husband
secretly she wouldn't gave me his name to tag him...
And if she wants to control him,
why did she not ask him not to accept any FEMALE request
in the first place.
if she cannot bare it, it's beyond my understanding?
Is this 2014? Does she knowe that her husband
can open ten other FB accounts for free.
or chat all day long with anyone without my help?
No, in fact
her only concern was to remind me
that she hope I'm not ''CHASING'' men on FB
and that I'm a married woman...
Good way to thank people afterward for her,
for me, it's just an insult to insinuate this kind of dirty thought
just because you feel insecure about your own relationship to anyone else.
I'm sad somebody can speak such insulting words
with so little disguise toward me and judge me without knowing me at all,
try to teach me educational stupidities,
like you should guess what people don't want
even when they didn't said a word about it and so on,
that everything can be only my fault and my fault alone.
Any excuses, any explanation won't do it,
the one who wants to blame you will always blame you,
after all,
as the French saying
my husband taught me:
'' when you want to kill your dog
you blame him for being sick...''
A bit sad
but I'm a lot more sad to see people
who cannot trust their own partner..
In the end,
if you cannot trust your husband,
why do you love him for?
So you can blame other women around?
It's completely irrational to me.
If my husband and I had this kind of trust issue,
I will worry for real.
Luckily it's not the case,
we're not rich in wealth but we're rich in love and trust to each other,
and for good reasons, including love,
I only wish other people find the same kind
of reason to stop to be insecure
and blame other for safety
they cannot manage by themselves.
Thank to God for this story happened
and to show me..
MGBY
AMEN.
May God bring you all, love and trust in your relationship,
it will put my smile on your face.
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